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Each Journey has a Destination

by Madge Blignaut #AWomanInProgress

· a woman in progress,Women,real women



Forward or onward movement towards a destination.

We are all on a journey getting to a destination, constantly moving forward. Motivational speaker and author Dr David Molapo says that if you are not moving you are dying. The day I made this discovery I had such a sense of relief knowing that I don’t have to know it all now, that I’m on a journey, a woman in progress. I think the biggest disservice we as women do to ourselves is to compare our life journey to those of other women. The reality is we all have our own unique journey.

About twenty years ago as a young woman attending a weekly youth group I was told that God wants to use me to speak in front of people, to motivate and encourage people. When I heard this I freaked out completely, I could not believe that I could stand in front of a crowd and deliver a sermon! Me? Never!

You see twenty years before that I was told as a new born baby that I will always have problems with my speech and that I will need speech therapy. I was born with a unilateral cleft of the lip and palate.

A cleft lip contains an opening in the upper lip that may extend into the nose. The opening may be on one side, both sides, or in the middle. A cleft palate is when the roof of the mouth contains an opening into the nose. These disorders can result in feeding problems, speech problems, hearing problems, and frequent ear infections.

Growing up was a challenge. Unlike other girls my age I did not spend the day in front of the mirror faffing about, trying out make up or even dreaming about boys. I avoided the mirror, I could not stand looking at my face. I spent my days dreaming of plastic surgery and I was convinced it would solve all my problems.

At the age of 17 I underwent my third corrective plastic surgery to my nose. I remember waking up in hospital in such pain and discomfort. It took a couple of days for the pain to settle. I was very anxious for the bandages to be removed and the swelling to go down. I could’nt wait for my new life with a perfectly straight nose and no scars to begin! To my shock and utter disappointment I still looked exactly the same! I had placed an unrealistic expectation on my surgery. The doctor then told me that I will have to undergo three more surgeries! I was crushed and cried my eyes out.

I chose to start accepting my cleft and to start living my life. I told the doctor I don’t want any more surgeries and I honestly have not regretted my decision at all! I cannot change the fact that was I was born a woman who happens to have a cleft; or rather who rocks a cleft of the lip and palate!!

We all have unique stories to tell and have challenges we had to overcome in our lives.

Here’s the thing, if you don’t have a destination you cannot go on a journey. What’s your destination? For me my destination is not so much a place but a state of being. As a child of God my purpose is centered on walking in God’s plans for my life. So my destination will always be, being in God’s perfect will for my life. Whatever journey I embark on I must have that end goal. Where does your journey take you to?

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